Drama! If you bring it then…You gotta be ready 4 the Turn up!


Dont bring the groceries (drama at its finest!) If you dont want me to unpack them! You cant bring the drama and not expect someone to try to rationalize it all…there’s bound to be questions! I love people and that can be a downfall at times, but I keep doing it! No sense in making everyone pay for things that happened in your past.

Getcholife aint nobody perfect and besides…you brought the drama! Now you dont expect me to disect it…really???

Youre tripping without the lugggage!

Until next time…with Chocolate on top!


Dating is fun but commitment can be fun too!

don’t throw away the prospect of commitment because things have been a little nuts with your dating life. But can you imagine being a committed relationship and having the same experience??? Well it’s more common than you know.

There are all kinds of facets of a relationship, dating, friends with benefits,one night stand, committed relationship! Which one is right for you??? Well that’s what I’m here to find out! Whadayalike? What peaks your interest and what you don’t like Let me know and keep it respectful please (that’s a must)! Guest Bloggers Welcome just PM me please and thank you!

Until next time…with Chocolate on top!

Are you still in love with your partner!

Well…I am, and hopefully more of you are experiencing the same! For me, it just seems to get better the older I get and I really couldn’t ask for more. I’m hearing more than ever that things are down for some couples and that’s not good. Don’t get me wrong! I hope everyone finds love but don’t do it at your expense, make sure that your partner is putting in work too, relationships take two to work!

When one is doing all the work, it can create strife in the relationship and that is not a good look. I learned a long time ago that you have to get you together before you can try have a relationship of any kind with someone. I mean, I wasn’t always the person that I am today…I put in work!

It made me the woman I am today LOL and I Love Her! I once heard a favorite singer of mine say “don’t judge me or who I used to be, instead help me become the woman I’m trying to be! That was powerful and admirable and in my mental Rolodex.

I am happy that I did the work that it too1k to get me to this place in my life. Put in the work and you’ll reap the rewards! And remember it takes two to Tango.

Until next time…with Chocolate on top!

Do you wanna be in a relationship…or not???

If you don’t then chances are that you’re likely not ready for commitment but it’s not necessarily a bad thing! You’ve gotta look at all sides! If you’re the type that’s looking for Mr. Right Now…you’re likely going to get what you’re after. There’s nothing wrong with that if that’s what you like. However you get what you signup for and sometimes the things that you don’t!

Either way, not the best way to go into any situation. Relationships don’t necessarily mean commitment but…why would you be in a relationship that isn’t going somewhere??? I’ll tell ya why, because commitment can be a scary place for some and you definitely have to be ready for it. Whether married or in a committed relationship both people need to be on the same page.

Sometimes people that have been together for a long time will get married and find that this wasn’t the right choice for them and end up breaking up. If it ain’t broke don’t fix it…where have I heard that before! This is true but not in every case because people can change once ink is dry on the marriage certificate and not necessarily for the good.

You ever dated anyone and thought man I hit the jackpot only to later say “was I drunk during the relationship or what”! I mean who is this person and where’s the person that I met??? It’s happened to me more than once but sometimes you gotta kiss a frog to get a prince and I’m not joking! 

I can honestly say that I’m very happy that I have a wonderful caring committed guy that truly loves me.. I hope that everyone finds love someday but take your time and find someone that you can love but also you like them too. Yes I said LIKE! Someone that you can stand to be in the same room with and not grow tired of quickly. It’s important to also be friends with your mate and enjoy lfe as much as you can with your someone special. Best of Luck !

Until next time…with Chocolate on top!

Hanging out with Mr/Ms wrong???

Are you hanging out with the wrong  one trying to have something that you know is not there, in other words your man is a player? Getcho life Boo, life is short and you’ve only got one life to live OK!

Now I know that sometimes in relationships we overlook things because it’s cute in the beginning until shiggity gets real then everyone’s in their feelings and bringing up everything from the day they met you until present. Some people know how to really fight and it’s not necessarily a compliment either!

I mean, it can get nasty and cause a storm to brew trust me I’ve been there! It’s hard when people don’t keep it real, especially in relationships. Once trust is broken, it’s hard to get that back! Some people end a relationship because they can’t trust the person or see past the issue to be able to move forward. Unresolved issues can lead to resentment, anger and a wide variety of other emotions if you don’t resolve the situation immediately!

Time is of the essence and life is too short to be holding grudges against a player that likely won’t change anytime soon. Listen baby…know when to get your jacket and hat and move around, some things don’t change so don’t waste your time hoping that they will. Instead be motivated to be move on because you never know who you might meet and please don’t kill your chances by staying with someone that wants to have his cake and eat yours and his too lol!

Until next time…with Chocolate on top!

Working with your spouse!

Can you really work with your spouse and not bring in previous baggage ??? I’m here to tell you that it’s difficult no matter how you put the plans together! No matter how you think, the outcome will likely be…disastrous!
then you’re going to have to work for it period! It’s not going to be easy but anything you put work into hopefully brings you some results, but that’s not promised. We try hard to be our best and give our best but at the end of the day for some of us,  it’s not enough and things can become hectic at some point. 
We act the same and sometimes can be very demanding. We know how our spouses are because we’ve been with them since Juvember (meaning forever or never) with them so we know their daily routine. But at the end of the day …! Working with your.spouse can be  difficult!

Especially when your spouse is really coming down on you and  criticizing you. You start to wonder who is this person??? Remember…this isthe person you fell in love with! Don’t give up on them,  love the one you’re with LOL. Believe me your spouse  loves you it’s just a communication issue and don’t let it go any further than that because if you know like I know you’ll end up single at some point.

Firstly you should not be working on the same shift, that would eliminate a lot of drama off the bat. Secondly you guys need to work hard and try to get the same days off so that you can have quality time together because working

Just remember relationships take two to do everything and if the scales are on balanced…with that you’re likely  to have problems regardless of the effort you have put forth!

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                                                       Until next time…with Chocolate on top!